Failing to Potty Train a "Flee" year old..

Well, for quite some time now, I have been trying to potty train my son, Ryan. He has no desire WHATSOEVER to work with me in this task. I have tried bribing him, I have threatened him, I've promised him toys, candy, whatever... you name it and still NOTHING! I think he's doing this just to spite me... I have taken him to the store and we have chosen the big boy chonies and everything, I put them on him and he just continues to pee and poo in his pants. I will literally ask him every 3 minutes, "do you have to go potty?" and he replies "no" and in the meantime, he's peeing in his pants. UGH!
I feel that my son should be going in the toilet since his bowel movements are larger than those of a Mastif. But, like I said, he has no interest to work with me. I mean seriously, what child has a bowel movement so large that it clogs the toilet? and I'm not talking like it got stuck in the plumbing... I'm talking it never went down, it got stuck in the hole to go down! GROSS! That is the kind of crap that I have to deal with on a daily basis (literally). So as my little man came to wake me up at 1:30 in the morning to advise me that he had 'rocks' in his diaper, I was grumbling, walking down the hall to his room to change his diaper, then the whole toilet thing happened! His poo was too big to just leave in the diaper and throw away and I was too tired to go downstairs and throw the diaper outside so I thought I'd flush the poop. Holeee shit!! I left this huge note for my hubby and left it on the toilet seat for my husband who would be using the toilet in 4 hours as he begins to get ready for work. "RYAN TOOK BIG CRAP, CLOGGED TOILET!!! DO NOT USE!!!" Waking up to these special surprises have been the highlight of my week...Thank goodness, the weather has cleared up! It looks like we're going to Disneyland on Sunday with some good weather... If I could just get Ryan to pee and poo in the toilet, life would be great!
As for little, little man, Aaron... that boy poops enough for 4 people. That kid smells food and he's pooping. I'm changing poopy diapers 4 to 5 times a DAY! Is this freaking normal? Good God.... and they said boys are easier! I'm thinking, YEAH RIGHT!!!